"Sure, babe." Eeeeek the words NO GIRL ever wants to hear. After Jenna’s pregnancy scare last week and subsequent drama with Matty, we are on the edge of our seats to see how everything gets (hopefully) resolved tonight!
All the dramz could have definitely been avoided if Jenna and Matty had been more careful about using protection. If Jenna had shared where she was at and what she was thinking and feeling with her cutie bf, he would have been able to provide some much-needed support. Talking about the “what ifs” can be, well, awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. And if you’re really feeling that tongue-tied and anxious around your significant other, maybe all the other stuff needs to be put on pause. There’s nothing wrong with waiting. Taking control of your sex life (at any time) is your decision to make -- and it needs to be respected. Just ask Molly Tarlov and Jillian Reed from "Awkward." IYSL and "Awkward." have teamed up for April’s National STD Awareness month, and we’ll be posting interviews each week.
This week, Molly and Jillian reveal why waiting is OK. We asked them if their characters, Sadie and Tamara, would have the confidence to say they wanted to wait. It’s no surprise that opinionated Sadie would lay down the rules and not care what anyone else thought. “My character wouldn't have any qualms about telling someone that she wanted to wait because she does have that certain pocket of confidence and would stand up for herself in that kind of way,” Molly says. Tamara, our favorite romantic, would, of course, hold off until everything was perfect. “I think Tamara has it set in her mind about wanting the moment to be special and right for her -- she doesn't feel pressure to have sex,” Jillian reveals.
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We also asked the Awkward. ladies if they had any advice for teens who want to wait to have sex. They said, first off -- it’s easy to feel pressure to go faster and do more than you’re comfortable with. But don’t believe the hype. Not everyone is having sex! Less than half of teens in high school have had sex. It’s always important to be honest with yourself (as well as your partner) and to trust your instincts. If you’re not feelin’ it, you’re not feelin’ it. Period. Your partner should listen to you and respect your decisions. Jillian agrees, “If your significant other isn’t OK with waiting and doesn’t make you feel comfortable, then maybe that’s not the right person to be with.”
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Bottom line -- you’re worth waiting for. And only you know when you are ready. If you do decide you are ready to have sex, make a plan to protect yourself from STDs and pregnancy BEFORE you’re in the moment.
For more tips about how to get the convo started, check out IYSL. And don’t miss our interviews with Awkward.’s Molly Tarlov and Jillian Reed each week!